Believe with intensity and desire. You are what you think you are. You are able to enhance the scope and quality of your life. What do you think?
You were not born to lose or fail. Why would you even remotely think you are inadequate or not up to the task at hand.
Allow your inner drive to have purpose. Every day we must have a purpose to fulfill. Every day we must visualize our purpose. Our spirit is our energy to fulfill our purpose. Every day take small simple steps but always remember to enjoy the ride.
Come to terms with who you are. Who you are and what you want to be must be separated from what the world tells you who you are and what you will be. The world is a pretty poor judge of who you are and what you will become. The world is wrong 99.9% of the time.
Begin each and every day looking at yourself in the mirror and then say out loud something positive about your self. Through the day smile at every person you meet and experience a moment of Joy each day. Everyday go outside even if it is only to your front porch, close your eyes, turn your face to the sky and say Thank You outloud. End every day with a thought of ONE thing you did well that day.
Life is full of wonder, like a child ask what, how and why of things. Curiosity creates knowledge and knowledge begets power. Nurture that power by asking questions about every new thing you encounter
Energy is the currency of the professional world today. You get to choose the energy whether positive or negative. You have the power of choice so never chose to be negative about yourself. You do not have to wait you can choose to take the wheel now and be the driver of your own bus.
Visualize!!! What is your vision for your health? What is your vision for your career? What is your vision for your family? If you have a vision you will find a way to overcome obstacles. What we think about will show up in our lives.
To cultivate positive energy; Smile more, Breathe deeply, Be thankful. It is impossible to be STRESSED and THANKFUL at the same time. Become to blessed to be stressed.
Be enthusiastic, Be focused, Be thankful. Nothing great was every achieved without enthusiasm. Do not abdicate-be the Chief Energy Officer (CEO) of your life.
Make a list of the people who believed in you and demonstrated that belief in some tangible way. Locate them if possible, Contact them, Thank them and Ask them what was the spark, energy or talent they saw in you?
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Saturday, May 19, 2012
Why There Always Will Be Cougars
Cougars are women who date younger men. In our culture, we comment on that situation with a mixture of disdain, envy and suspicion. By contrast, it is expected that an older man will date a younger woman. A lady of a substantially younger age by a man’s side is his trophy wife or arm candy. But the reverse tends not to be true.
On my radio shows (http://tinyurl.com/yzxnexy), I interviewed a female eye surgeon who is having a dickens of a time finding a man her age or older who is single and her intellectual equal since her divorce. So she has been dating younger men out of necessity.
A little research explains why most men date older women, while women date people substantially younger then themselves.
For the past half century in the United States, there have been on average 1050 boys for each 1000 girls born each year. According to Census Bureau statistics, the number of boys compared to girls continually decreases until at the age group of 30-34 when women now outnumber men.
In the U. S. in the decade of 20 to 29 by the latest 2008 statistics, there were 623,000 more men than women. But between ages 30-39, women outnumber men by 262,000. And it just gets worse as people get older.
For a woman of 40, that means that there are not enough men to provide a partner for her and every other woman in her age group. So dating a younger man may become necessary if she choses not to be alone.
If you are a woman over 40 who is looking for a mate that is your educational equal and you have an advanced or professional degree, good luck to you. The disparity between men and women educationally is growing every year. Substantially more than half of the advanced and professional degrees are awarded to women today. So the numbers disparity will only increase.
As Safire the Uppity Blues Woman sings in her song “Middle Aged Blues Boogie”
“Well seems like men my age are all married, boring or tired…
Got to find a young man if you want to feel desired.
Now some of my friends are worried ‘bout what some people might say.
I say ‘age ain’t nothin’ but a number.' The good Lord made it that way.”
In addition to all of the factors discussed above, spending time as widow is reduced since men die sooner by at least 5 years than women. So ladies, permission granted. Get out there and find an appropriate “youngun.”
What Is Posttraumatic Stress Disorder?
On my radio show, "Relationships 101," I interview a man who has struggled with Posttraumatic Stress Order (PTSD) since 1979 when the airplane he was flying crashed. I listed a few of the prominent diagnostic indicators of this condition on air and promised that I would post the rest on my web site. Here they are, excerpted from the Diagnostic Criteria from DSM-IV. The DSM is the clinician’s Bible for diagnosing mental illnesses.
A. The person has been exposed to a traumatic event in which both of the following
were present:
(1) The person experienced, witnessed, or was confronted with an event or events that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others.
(2) The person’s response involved intense fear, helplessness, or horror.
B. The traumatic event is persistently reexperienced in one (or more) of the following ways:
(1) recurrent and intrusive distressing recollections of the event, including images, thoughts, or perceptions;
(2) recurrent distressing dreams of the event;
(3) acting or feeling as if the traumatic event were recurring (includes a sense of reliving the experience, illusions, hallucinations, and dissociative flashback episodes, including those that occur on awakening or when intoxicated);
(4) intense psychological distress at exposure to internal or external cues that symbolize or resemble an aspect of the traumatic event;
(5) physiological reactivity on exposure to internal or external cues that symbolize or resemble an aspect of the traumatic event.
C. Persistent avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma and numbing of general responsiveness (not present before the trauma) as indicated by three (or more) of the following:
(1) efforts to avoid thoughts, feelings, or conversation associated with the trauma;
(2) efforts to avoid activities, places, or people that arouse recollections of the trauma;
(3) inability to recall an important aspect of the trauma;
(4) markedly diminished interest or participation in significant activities;
(5) feelings of detachment or estrangement from others;
(6) restricted range of affect ( e.g., unable to have loving feelings)
(7) sense of a foreshortened future (e.g., does not expect to have a career, marriage, children, or a normal life span).
D. Persistent symptoms of increased arousal (not present before the trauma), as indicated by two (or more) of the following:
(1) difficulty falling asleep;
(2) irritability or outbursts of anger;
(3) difficulty concentrating;
(4) hypervigilance
(5) exaggerated startle response;
E. Duration of the disturbance (symptoms in Criteria B, C, and D) is more han one month.
F. Disturbance causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
Acute: if duration of symptoms is less than three months
Chronic: if duration of symptoms is three months or more
With delayed onset: if onset of symptoms is at least six months after the stressor.
As you look over this list of symptoms of PTSD, imagine the stress that this condition places on the individual who has this illness, as well as on his/her intimate relationship.
“Dear Anonymous”
I had two strong reactions when I read the comment you posted on my blog. First of all, thank you for leaving it. I invite all of my readers to comment. It makes me feel the caring community I am building online.
My first was heartbreak for you. After five years with this woman and three sessions with a counselor, you are primarily being beaten up? It sounds like you haven’t gone back to see the counselor, and I wouldn’t blame you if you didn’t. It is possible for a well-trained family systems therapist to work individually with one member of a couple and then bring the other partner into joint therapy. However, in order for that to work, it requires that the therapist know how to balance alliances to and join with both of you.
Clearly, your relationship issue with your significant other requires more skill than the male-bashing that this counselor does in the guise of therapy. It may seem like she is helping your s.o. by siding with her. But look at it this way. After 3 years, she’s still suffering from the after effects of the divorce and the counselor is both allowing and encouraging her to remain in her misery? Your s.o. has won only a small victory!
Your story is exactly why I wrote my first book, Helping Men Change: The Role of the Female Therapist. It was not because I felt that men needed to do all the changing in a relationship. However, that was the prevailing sentiment at that time. It was a time of feminists’ backlash against the power men had claimed in relationships up until the 1950’s. Helping Men Change was published in 1993 after an editor who heard my presentation about my men’s groups offered me a contract on the spot at the end. She said, “I’ve been looking for two years for the right woman to write this book. If you want a contact, you’ve got it.”
What made me “the right woman?” My ability to see relationships as systems. I believe to my core that relationship are an interlocking web of covert agreements that people strike between them that stabilize and perpetuate their relationship. So to blame one of them for all the relationship’s woes is simply not accurate. Nor is it fair. It really does take two to tango.
My other reaction was anger at the counselor. Male-bashing is simply not an adequate therapeutic strategy! Nor would the reverse be appropriate if a male were to perpetuate it on female clients. Her response to both of you belies unfinished business of her own that has created a major blind spot for her and has crept into her work. I can only theorize about what that might be. But I can tell you this. It is indefensible.
How do I work with couples differently from this? The core of how I work focuses around a few key questions. Often, they are not answered the first, the third, or even the tenth time I ask them. These are abstract, emotionally-laden issues. But they must be answered by people.
1. What are you getting out of continuing to fight with each other about this situation?
2. How is it helping you? (Yes, you read that correctly.)
3. What do you suppose you two would be thinking about and working with if you weren’t struggling with the aftermath of her divorce?
4. What’s in it for both of you to stay?
I don’t have to tell you that five years is a long time and a lot of investment. So it behooves you to advocate for your relationship by finding the best therapist you can to help you. And if your s.o. refuses to see anyone other than the person she’s been working with (who, as you see, has not been very helpful) then get some help to sort through your feelings and questions on your own.
If you can’t answer the questions above and would like my help, remember I offer a complimentary consultation. Just call my toll free number (888-546-1580) to schedule a appointment.
Losing a Best Friend
Have you ever lost a best friend? Dealing with the grief from that is important but doubly tough because unlike the loss of a close family member, society does not come to you with compassion. The loss of a best friend occurs more often than not by breaking up rather than by death but both will feel the same and both must be grieved.
Hear Dr. Beth discuss this on her radio show Relationships 101 on webtalkradio.net on Monday, May 21, 2012 after it is posted on line at noon. This link will take you there directly. http://tinyurl.com/yzxnexy It will be the last half of this show.
An archived recent show is called Friendship Interrupted. Dr. Beth spoke with Judy Dippel about her book Friendship Interrupted. They talked about when you lose a best friend, whether by death, irresolvable differences, or growing apart. This is a profound and unsettling experience that must be grieved to move on.
Many of us know of someone who is hurting because of losing a best friend. Why don‘t you take a moment and send this message to them. I am sure they would be comforted by knowing you care.
If you go to drbetherickson.com and at the top of the home page click on the JOIN you can receive a weekly notice of the guests and topics of the show to be posted that week. I do hope you join my caring community of frequent listeners.
Tuesday, November 8, 2011
Who’s on the Family Tree? It’s Complicated
This was written a few weeks ago but it is such an important topic that I choose to release it here also. This is just one example of my Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth.
If after reading this article you would like to see more Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth just go to the following link and you will see a link to sign up to experience for free these suggestion filled daily posts of advice to become a better more in control happier YOU.
Join today! It is free for 30 days and there is no obligation to continue but I believe when you have a chance to experience this daily missive you like all others will find it daily reading that you cannot imagine not having.
http://www.drbetherickson.com/daily_words_of_wisdom.html
I am asking you to at least give it a try.
If after reading this if you beliieve as I do that this information should be must reading for every person thinking about or may try to use advanced reproductive methods invite them to go to my website http://www.drbetherickson.com/ and read this article and suggest to them that they should share this information with their friends and acquaintencnes,
Introduction
With the advent of many advances in reproductive technology, such as sperm donors, surrogate mothers, same-sex parents, stepparents and stepsiblings, and infertility treatments, it is difficult to say unequivocally who is related to whom. Time was, there were only two ways to become related: through marriage or along bloodlines. But now, family ties are murkier, relationships are more complex, and family trees have many more branches.
How "family" is defined is a crucial question on many levels. Beyond the debate over same-sex marriage, it affects income tax filings, adoption and foster care practices, employee benefits, inheritance rights, hospital visitation, and countless other legal matters and just as importantly the future of your health and means for treatment.
In this post, I will discuss how family trees are beginning to look like tangled forests and the implications of this increasingly complex 21st century phenomenon. And in order to comprehend these families, you have to be able to think complexly.
Census Data
For the last six years, according to United States census data, there have been more unmarried households than married ones. And more same-sex couples are having children using surrogates or sperm donors or by adoption. The California Cryobank, one of the nation’s largest sperm banks, said that about one-third of its clients in 2009 were lesbian couples, compared with seven percent a decade earlier.
New questions are being phased in nationally on the standard birth certificate questionnaire about whether, and what type of reproductive technology was used, according to the National Center for Health Statistics, part of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Aspects of This Issue
Tracing a family tree is more than an intellectual exercise. There are medical, legal, bioethical, and emotional dimensions to this issue. As the composition of families changes, a new set of questions emerges as to who gets a branch on the family tree.
Medical
If a child becomes seriously ill who was born using artificial insemination, how will that child ever know his/her health legacy? If s/he needs a bone marrow donor, for example, and there is no known sibling or father who could be located to serve as a match, that child is out of luck if his/her mother is not a match.
Legal
Who is a legitimate legal heir to a deceased parent’s estate? Who inherits property? Unless the deceased person specifically has named a child in his/her will who is not related by blood, for instance a stepchild, that individual has no legitimate claim to the deceased parent’s estate.
In addition, there is no regulatory framework in place that would protect the children who are born using Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART) from harm. In the United States, there is no consistent regulatory framework to protect the children born using ART from harm. And the regulations that do exist are generally less effective than they need to be.
Bioethical Issues
Currently, few regulatory mechanisms are in place at either the state or the federal or state level that would protect unborn children from their parent’s decision to reproduce by any means possible.
Many issues of reproductive technology have given rise to bioethical issues, since technology often alters the assumptions that lie behind existing systems of sexual and reproductive morality. People contemplating becoming parents by any means possible need to consider issues like:
Just because we can do something, should we do it?
How do adults and we as a society balance The Right to Reproduce vs. the Rights/Best Interests of Children?
Alas, too few physicians and would-be parents contemplate such important questions before they proceed with choosing their best option for bearing a child. Witness the “Octo Mom.”
Further, it is not known how many “leftover embryos” that could be babies are sitting in cryogenic storage in fertility centers. Some estimates are as high as 400, 000 in the U.S. alone. Although it is unclear how many of these embryos will be discarded in the next few years, their presence has fueled the debate over human embryonic stem cell research.
Emotional
Some children who have to comprehend and explain to others who their relatives are and how they are related may develop a sense of alienation from their peers who grow up in more conventional homes. Then, they also can experience a sense of isolation and a feeling of being odd and weird. Although, of course, it clearly is not their parent’s intention, the unconventional circumstances of their birth can cause these children emotional pain that can last a lifetime.
What of Other Children Fathered by the Sperm Donor?
Technically, they could be the child’s half-siblings. But especially if there is no chance of knowing who they are, they might better be called “donor siblings.”
It is even possible that half-siblings conceived with the help of a sperm donor might be attracted to and want to marry his/her half-sibling. This would be a case of accidental incest, and who knows what the legal ramifications of that might be!
Case Example
Many years ago, I treated a woman whose father was a sperm donor. Since Assisted Reproductive Technology has only been around for about 25 years, her mother must have been a pioneer in using artificial insemination to bear her daughter.
Her mother’s choice had profound implications for the daughter. Apparently, she thought nothing of them when she made the decision to exercise her personal right to bear a child by any means possible. My client spoke of a profound sense of loneliness and emptiness when she was unable to answer the question of who her father was. And she got little comfort from her detached mother who, in truth, only knew of the sperm donor’s approximate age, eye color, ethnic background, and that he was a medical student. She had no information whatsoever about her half-siblings who theoretically could number in the dozens.
All I could give the woman was a kind listening ear as she cried and railed at her unfortunate circumstance, which was precious little comfort, I’m afraid. But clearly, it was more than she felt she could get from her mother.
What This Means for You
• If you have already had a child using ART, be aware of the voids in that child’s psyche and soul.
• To never know both birth parents is a profound loss for these children.
• Parents need to help them grieve.
• This is true of other circumstances as well, such as a child whose parent is killed in a war before s/he is born.
• Being fathered by a sperm donor is the smallest scintilla of fatherhood there is.
• Who is in a child’s family is becoming increasingly more complicated for all concerned, and I suspect its complications will continue to grow exponentially
© Dr. Beth Erickson 2011
If after reading this article you would like to see more Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth just go to the following link and you will see a link to sign up to experience for free these suggestion filled daily posts of advice to become a better more in control happier YOU.
Join today! It is free for 30 days and there is no obligation to continue but I believe when you have a chance to experience this daily missive you like all others will find it daily reading that you cannot imagine not having.
http://www.drbetherickson.com/daily_words_of_wisdom.html
I am asking you to at least give it a try.
If after reading this if you beliieve as I do that this information should be must reading for every person thinking about or may try to use advanced reproductive methods invite them to go to my website http://www.drbetherickson.com/ and read this article and suggest to them that they should share this information with their friends and acquaintencnes,
Introduction
With the advent of many advances in reproductive technology, such as sperm donors, surrogate mothers, same-sex parents, stepparents and stepsiblings, and infertility treatments, it is difficult to say unequivocally who is related to whom. Time was, there were only two ways to become related: through marriage or along bloodlines. But now, family ties are murkier, relationships are more complex, and family trees have many more branches.
How "family" is defined is a crucial question on many levels. Beyond the debate over same-sex marriage, it affects income tax filings, adoption and foster care practices, employee benefits, inheritance rights, hospital visitation, and countless other legal matters and just as importantly the future of your health and means for treatment.
In this post, I will discuss how family trees are beginning to look like tangled forests and the implications of this increasingly complex 21st century phenomenon. And in order to comprehend these families, you have to be able to think complexly.
Census Data
For the last six years, according to United States census data, there have been more unmarried households than married ones. And more same-sex couples are having children using surrogates or sperm donors or by adoption. The California Cryobank, one of the nation’s largest sperm banks, said that about one-third of its clients in 2009 were lesbian couples, compared with seven percent a decade earlier.
New questions are being phased in nationally on the standard birth certificate questionnaire about whether, and what type of reproductive technology was used, according to the National Center for Health Statistics, part of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Aspects of This Issue
Tracing a family tree is more than an intellectual exercise. There are medical, legal, bioethical, and emotional dimensions to this issue. As the composition of families changes, a new set of questions emerges as to who gets a branch on the family tree.
Medical
If a child becomes seriously ill who was born using artificial insemination, how will that child ever know his/her health legacy? If s/he needs a bone marrow donor, for example, and there is no known sibling or father who could be located to serve as a match, that child is out of luck if his/her mother is not a match.
Legal
Who is a legitimate legal heir to a deceased parent’s estate? Who inherits property? Unless the deceased person specifically has named a child in his/her will who is not related by blood, for instance a stepchild, that individual has no legitimate claim to the deceased parent’s estate.
In addition, there is no regulatory framework in place that would protect the children who are born using Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART) from harm. In the United States, there is no consistent regulatory framework to protect the children born using ART from harm. And the regulations that do exist are generally less effective than they need to be.
Bioethical Issues
Currently, few regulatory mechanisms are in place at either the state or the federal or state level that would protect unborn children from their parent’s decision to reproduce by any means possible.
Many issues of reproductive technology have given rise to bioethical issues, since technology often alters the assumptions that lie behind existing systems of sexual and reproductive morality. People contemplating becoming parents by any means possible need to consider issues like:
Just because we can do something, should we do it?
How do adults and we as a society balance The Right to Reproduce vs. the Rights/Best Interests of Children?
Alas, too few physicians and would-be parents contemplate such important questions before they proceed with choosing their best option for bearing a child. Witness the “Octo Mom.”
Further, it is not known how many “leftover embryos” that could be babies are sitting in cryogenic storage in fertility centers. Some estimates are as high as 400, 000 in the U.S. alone. Although it is unclear how many of these embryos will be discarded in the next few years, their presence has fueled the debate over human embryonic stem cell research.
Emotional
Some children who have to comprehend and explain to others who their relatives are and how they are related may develop a sense of alienation from their peers who grow up in more conventional homes. Then, they also can experience a sense of isolation and a feeling of being odd and weird. Although, of course, it clearly is not their parent’s intention, the unconventional circumstances of their birth can cause these children emotional pain that can last a lifetime.
What of Other Children Fathered by the Sperm Donor?
Technically, they could be the child’s half-siblings. But especially if there is no chance of knowing who they are, they might better be called “donor siblings.”
It is even possible that half-siblings conceived with the help of a sperm donor might be attracted to and want to marry his/her half-sibling. This would be a case of accidental incest, and who knows what the legal ramifications of that might be!
Case Example
Many years ago, I treated a woman whose father was a sperm donor. Since Assisted Reproductive Technology has only been around for about 25 years, her mother must have been a pioneer in using artificial insemination to bear her daughter.
Her mother’s choice had profound implications for the daughter. Apparently, she thought nothing of them when she made the decision to exercise her personal right to bear a child by any means possible. My client spoke of a profound sense of loneliness and emptiness when she was unable to answer the question of who her father was. And she got little comfort from her detached mother who, in truth, only knew of the sperm donor’s approximate age, eye color, ethnic background, and that he was a medical student. She had no information whatsoever about her half-siblings who theoretically could number in the dozens.
All I could give the woman was a kind listening ear as she cried and railed at her unfortunate circumstance, which was precious little comfort, I’m afraid. But clearly, it was more than she felt she could get from her mother.
What This Means for You
• If you have already had a child using ART, be aware of the voids in that child’s psyche and soul.
• To never know both birth parents is a profound loss for these children.
• Parents need to help them grieve.
• This is true of other circumstances as well, such as a child whose parent is killed in a war before s/he is born.
• Being fathered by a sperm donor is the smallest scintilla of fatherhood there is.
• Who is in a child’s family is becoming increasingly more complicated for all concerned, and I suspect its complications will continue to grow exponentially
© Dr. Beth Erickson 2011
Are You Involved With a Serial Cheater
Hi Dr. Beth,
Your interview with Sterling Anderson "the recovering cheater" was fascinating..
I came across a cheater when I was in college when I met one of my classmates, Charles. He lived with a girlfriend and yet wanted to have a "platonic" relationship with me. It's interesting that Sterling talked about the "affairs of the heart" that begin with fantasy, but in the end is still a form of c...heating. It surprised me that Charles needed a 'platonic friend" even though he had a girlfriend. In the end, I walked away when I realized he was using me as I'm sure I was one of many female "friends" he engulfed with his "tentacles" to gratify his need for attention. Young women should learn early to recognize these parasites before they waste their time. I made a mistake by not walking away sooner.
You did a wonderful job at tackling the subject! Your "Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth" on this topic is a must read for everyone in or looking to be in a "relationship."
Go to www.webtalkradio.net find Relationships 101 and hear this great conversation.
Your interview with Sterling Anderson "the recovering cheater" was fascinating..
I came across a cheater when I was in college when I met one of my classmates, Charles. He lived with a girlfriend and yet wanted to have a "platonic" relationship with me. It's interesting that Sterling talked about the "affairs of the heart" that begin with fantasy, but in the end is still a form of c...heating. It surprised me that Charles needed a 'platonic friend" even though he had a girlfriend. In the end, I walked away when I realized he was using me as I'm sure I was one of many female "friends" he engulfed with his "tentacles" to gratify his need for attention. Young women should learn early to recognize these parasites before they waste their time. I made a mistake by not walking away sooner.
You did a wonderful job at tackling the subject! Your "Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth" on this topic is a must read for everyone in or looking to be in a "relationship."
Go to www.webtalkradio.net find Relationships 101 and hear this great conversation.
Sunday, October 9, 2011
Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth is a HIT!!
In the last couple of weeks I have written in Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth on the following topics: Seven Deadly Sins Against Relationships; Why Women Love Bad Boys and Jerks; What Makes for Marital Satisfaction?; Could Your Marriage Survive an Affair?; and here is some of the feedback I have received from my subscribers.
Just loving these, and wanted you to know... Heather, October 9, 2011
Dr. Beth! I've been thoroughly enjoying your daily emails, glad I signed up.
Marissa, October 5, 2011
Hi Dr. Beth, Thank you! Such a good article again! Julie, October 6, 2011
Really good -- pulling it together for them! Yes, the one today was really good!!!
Karen, October 3, 2011
Here is a direct link to get to the sign up form. http://tinyurl.com/43q2jt4 just copy and paste this into your browser.
All Bold items are required to be completed including your credit card information before you click on the submit order on the bottom right.
Your credit card will not be charged at this time but will be charged $6.46 at the end of your 30 day free trial.
$0.21 (21 Cents) a day is all it costs in the future to be informed and learn the tools that will help you have a more happy and successful life, career and relationships.
Just loving these, and wanted you to know... Heather, October 9, 2011
Dr. Beth! I've been thoroughly enjoying your daily emails, glad I signed up.
Marissa, October 5, 2011
Hi Dr. Beth, Thank you! Such a good article again! Julie, October 6, 2011
Really good -- pulling it together for them! Yes, the one today was really good!!!
Karen, October 3, 2011
Here is a direct link to get to the sign up form. http://tinyurl.com/43q2jt4 just copy and paste this into your browser.
All Bold items are required to be completed including your credit card information before you click on the submit order on the bottom right.
Your credit card will not be charged at this time but will be charged $6.46 at the end of your 30 day free trial.
$0.21 (21 Cents) a day is all it costs in the future to be informed and learn the tools that will help you have a more happy and successful life, career and relationships.
Saturday, September 24, 2011
You must protect yourself with reasonable Boundries
Many people today are either; slightly frazzled, mildly frayed, or full-on exhausted and experience great frustration because of it. But your body, your family, and especially your career require you to set limits so you don’t burn out. Constantly pushing the envelope of what is humanly possible for one person to manage will catch up with you sooner or later, one way or another.
Would you like to learn how Setting Boundaries Can Help You to Protect Your Sanity and Your Relationships and how to create reasonable and proper boundaries? Send me an email with "Setting Boundaries" in the subject line to my email address drbetherickson@aol.com and I will send it to you right away. This expert guide will help you eliminate some of the frustration in your life.
Would you like to learn how Setting Boundaries Can Help You to Protect Your Sanity and Your Relationships and how to create reasonable and proper boundaries? Send me an email with "Setting Boundaries" in the subject line to my email address drbetherickson@aol.com and I will send it to you right away. This expert guide will help you eliminate some of the frustration in your life.
Friday, September 23, 2011
Does Your Relationship Need a Tune Up?
Deciding whether to go or to stay in a relationship can be challenging indeed. I frequently am asked to help people assess the health and viability of a relationship and to help them decide to invest farther or to cut their losses. I call this “riding shotgun.”
I am somewhat hesitant to reduce this major life dilemma down to checklists. But I acknowledge that people have different learning styles. Also, because making this decision can be so fraught with bewildering emotions, I have chosen to simplify the process as much as I can. What follows is a series of checklists that delineate at least some of the questions to ask yourself as you struggle to answer the question “Should I go or stay in this relationship?”
Would you like to have the “Blueprint to Assess the Viability of Your Intimate Relationship”. Send me an email with that topic in the subject line to my email drbetherickson@aol.com and I will send them to you.
I am somewhat hesitant to reduce this major life dilemma down to checklists. But I acknowledge that people have different learning styles. Also, because making this decision can be so fraught with bewildering emotions, I have chosen to simplify the process as much as I can. What follows is a series of checklists that delineate at least some of the questions to ask yourself as you struggle to answer the question “Should I go or stay in this relationship?”
Would you like to have the “Blueprint to Assess the Viability of Your Intimate Relationship”. Send me an email with that topic in the subject line to my email drbetherickson@aol.com and I will send them to you.
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
How to Spot a Narcissist
On my radio show that airs on Monday, August 29th, I introduced the first in a three-part series on narcissists: who they are, how to spot them, why they are so seductive, how to leave them, and how their insatiable desire for adoration makes them so seductive to codependent people.
Narcissists are decidedly a mixed bag. They are very appealing at first. They have a keen interest in charming the opposite sex. They are entertaining and exciting, but they are also aggressive and manipulative. They have a powerful need for attention. There is a strong link between narcissism and physical attractiveness, which is part of their initial charm. There is also a strong connection between narcissism and leadership. Because they are so desirous of admiration and even adoration, they tend to sweep into a leaderless group and take charge.
The more emotionally attached you get, the easier it will be for a narcissist to manipulate you. Often, however, being dazzled by first impressions turns sour because of their manipulativeness, lack of empathy, and demand for adoration.
The following nine characteristics distinguish someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, according to the DSM-IV which is a clinician’s “Bible” for diagnosing disorders. NPD is a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning in early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts.
1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance
2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power and love
3. Believes s/he is special and unique
4. Requires extensive admiration
5. Has a sense of entitlement
6. Is interpersonally exploitative
7. Lacks empathy
8. Is envious of others or believes that others are envious or him/her
9. Shows arrogant or haughty behaviors
Six elements should be noted. 1) There is a fine line between being an extravert and a narcissist. 2) There is such a thing as healthy narcissism which forms a constant, realistic self-interest, mature goals and principles, and an ability to form deep relationships. 3) Healthy narcissism is the antithesis of the insecurity or inadequacy that plague a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. 4) A certain amount of narcissism is a required element within normal development. 5) We all are narcissistic to one degree or another. 6) Although there are female narcissists, the majority are males.
Narcissists are decidedly a mixed bag. They are very appealing at first. They have a keen interest in charming the opposite sex. They are entertaining and exciting, but they are also aggressive and manipulative. They have a powerful need for attention. There is a strong link between narcissism and physical attractiveness, which is part of their initial charm. There is also a strong connection between narcissism and leadership. Because they are so desirous of admiration and even adoration, they tend to sweep into a leaderless group and take charge.
The more emotionally attached you get, the easier it will be for a narcissist to manipulate you. Often, however, being dazzled by first impressions turns sour because of their manipulativeness, lack of empathy, and demand for adoration.
The following nine characteristics distinguish someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder, according to the DSM-IV which is a clinician’s “Bible” for diagnosing disorders. NPD is a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning in early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts.
1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance
2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power and love
3. Believes s/he is special and unique
4. Requires extensive admiration
5. Has a sense of entitlement
6. Is interpersonally exploitative
7. Lacks empathy
8. Is envious of others or believes that others are envious or him/her
9. Shows arrogant or haughty behaviors
Six elements should be noted. 1) There is a fine line between being an extravert and a narcissist. 2) There is such a thing as healthy narcissism which forms a constant, realistic self-interest, mature goals and principles, and an ability to form deep relationships. 3) Healthy narcissism is the antithesis of the insecurity or inadequacy that plague a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. 4) A certain amount of narcissism is a required element within normal development. 5) We all are narcissistic to one degree or another. 6) Although there are female narcissists, the majority are males.
Monday, August 1, 2011
Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth
For more than four and a half years I have been interviewing experts, thought leaders and everyday people on Relationship issues on my internet radio shows. Week after week since 2009, the listeners to my weekly Relationships101 show on WebTalkRadio, have numbered in the 10’s of thousands. That led me to conclude the information I present to my radio audience is considered by my listeners to be valuable enough to devote their precious time. I have come to realize, and many others have told me, that my three and one half decades of learning, teaching and counseling have provided me with a treasure trove of information should be shared with the world.
Receive my Daily Words of Wisdom FREE for 30 days go to http://tinyurl.com/3sqallo
Sharing my insights into what is going on in the world around us is now a reality and my vehicle to share this with you is a subscription-only Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth. I have been working diligently, writing my fingers to the bone to prepare these special offerings for you. It is now ready to launch and to introduce you to the Daily Words of Wisdom of Dr. Beth I am going to give you a 30 DAYS OF THIS VALUABLE INFORMATION FREE!!!
After the first 30 days, the cost is only $1.49 a week and your credit card will be billed $6.46 on the 30th day and for each succeeding 30 days after that. You can start receiving them for yourself now by clicking here. So what are you going to get for this investment of 21 cents a day. Seven days a week in your inbox will be my new post of my Daily Words of Wisdom and they will be an a wide range of topics; Each one will be mind candy for you to chew on as you go about your day.
In those first 30 days I believe you will come to recognize the value of the insights I’m sharing from my 35+ years of learning, teaching, and helping couples, families, and individuals overcome impediments to their happiness and success. I personally believe you will find great value in this product. I invite you to dialogue with me, and even suggest potential topics you’d like me to write about. You may do this either by going to www.AskDrBethErickson.com or by sending me an e-mail at drbetherickson@aol.com.
Because we all march to a different drummer, as they say, you may find that some of my Daily Words of Wisdom messages are more applicable to you than others. That is only natural. I have deliberately varied the topics I write about, so just wait a day or two, and I’ll bet another one will tickle your fancy.
Receive my Daily Words of Wisdom FREE for 30 days go to http://tinyurl.com/3sqallo
NOTE: When you join, you'll receive an acknowledgement email from me and a second email with a confirmation link that you will need to click on to confirm that you want to receive Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth.
Receive my Daily Words of Wisdom FREE for 30 days go to http://tinyurl.com/3sqallo
Sharing my insights into what is going on in the world around us is now a reality and my vehicle to share this with you is a subscription-only Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth. I have been working diligently, writing my fingers to the bone to prepare these special offerings for you. It is now ready to launch and to introduce you to the Daily Words of Wisdom of Dr. Beth I am going to give you a 30 DAYS OF THIS VALUABLE INFORMATION FREE!!!
After the first 30 days, the cost is only $1.49 a week and your credit card will be billed $6.46 on the 30th day and for each succeeding 30 days after that. You can start receiving them for yourself now by clicking here. So what are you going to get for this investment of 21 cents a day. Seven days a week in your inbox will be my new post of my Daily Words of Wisdom and they will be an a wide range of topics; Each one will be mind candy for you to chew on as you go about your day.
In those first 30 days I believe you will come to recognize the value of the insights I’m sharing from my 35+ years of learning, teaching, and helping couples, families, and individuals overcome impediments to their happiness and success. I personally believe you will find great value in this product. I invite you to dialogue with me, and even suggest potential topics you’d like me to write about. You may do this either by going to www.AskDrBethErickson.com or by sending me an e-mail at drbetherickson@aol.com.
Because we all march to a different drummer, as they say, you may find that some of my Daily Words of Wisdom messages are more applicable to you than others. That is only natural. I have deliberately varied the topics I write about, so just wait a day or two, and I’ll bet another one will tickle your fancy.
Receive my Daily Words of Wisdom FREE for 30 days go to http://tinyurl.com/3sqallo
NOTE: When you join, you'll receive an acknowledgement email from me and a second email with a confirmation link that you will need to click on to confirm that you want to receive Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth.
Friday, July 29, 2011
You Can Never Have Too Much Information
It is a truism that you can never have too much information. Given that fact I have after substantial thought and conversations with several people have determined to create a daily letter to those people interested in learning a psychologists take on issues of the day and other valuable insights. I have been working diligently, writing my fingers to the bone to prepare these Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth.
To demonstrate the value of this information I am initially giving it away for free. For the first 30 days after you sign up each morning you will have an article delivered to your inbox.
Features:
• After you sign up, you will receive in your e-mail inbox daily (that means all 7 days a week!) Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth posts written by yours truly on a range of topics of interest.
• They are mind candy for you to chew on as you go about your days.
• For the first 30 days after you sign up, the Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth will be free. In that time, I believe you will come to recognize the value of the insights I’m sharing from my 35+ years of learning, teaching, and helping couples, families, and individuals overcome impediments to their happiness and success.
• After the first 30 days, the cost is only $1.49 a week.
• Your credit card will be billed $6.46 for each succeeding 30-day period.
• You can sign up by going to my web site (http://www.drbetherickson.com/). On the bottom left of Dr. Beth’s home page you will find a link to take you directly to the sign up page.
• If you unsubscribe, you will receive no
more Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth during the free period and if it is during a paid period the daily posts will stop after the final day of the paid period. No refunds will be provided for cancelled subscriptions.
• Of course, I believe you will find great value and will continue. I invite you to dialogue with me, and even suggest potential topics you’d like me to write about. You may do this either by going to www.AskDrBethErickson.com or by sending me an e-mail at drbetherickson@aol.com.
• You may find that some Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth posts are more interesting to you than others. That is only natural. I have deliberately varied the topics I write about, so just wait a day or two, and I’ll bet another one will strike your fancy.
Benefits:
• These Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth posts provide food for thought on a wide range of topics as you go about your daily activities, such as commuting, doing chores, or planning your company’s next initiatives.
• With them, you will be able to capitalize on my over three and a half decades as a practicing psychotherapist on news of the day, such as the self-destruction of the political careers of Anthony Wiener, John Edwards, John Ensign, and Mark Sanford, or the aftermath of the earthquake, tsunami and nuclear plant meltdown in Japan.
• You will also get a psychologist’s perspective on important topics such as the impact on children of their parents’ descent into poverty and homelessness, or on children of incarcerated parents, or the impact of technology on kids’ brain development.
• Likewise, some Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth posts will be on important relationship enhancing skills and how to build them, such as appropriate ways to share feelings, top five secrets for staying in love, the uses and abuses of anger, and talking to children about death.
• Bottom line, you’ll be smarter and better informed on a wide range of topics when you subscribe.
• So let me do your homework for you.
Check out this 30 DAYS ARE FREE exciting offer!!! It’s a subscription-only Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth SIGN UP TODAY AT (http://tinyurl.com/3rafcld)
Dedicated to your health and happiness,
Dr. Beth
To demonstrate the value of this information I am initially giving it away for free. For the first 30 days after you sign up each morning you will have an article delivered to your inbox.
Features:
• After you sign up, you will receive in your e-mail inbox daily (that means all 7 days a week!) Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth posts written by yours truly on a range of topics of interest.
• They are mind candy for you to chew on as you go about your days.
• For the first 30 days after you sign up, the Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth will be free. In that time, I believe you will come to recognize the value of the insights I’m sharing from my 35+ years of learning, teaching, and helping couples, families, and individuals overcome impediments to their happiness and success.
• After the first 30 days, the cost is only $1.49 a week.
• Your credit card will be billed $6.46 for each succeeding 30-day period.
• You can sign up by going to my web site (http://www.drbetherickson.com/). On the bottom left of Dr. Beth’s home page you will find a link to take you directly to the sign up page.
• If you unsubscribe, you will receive no
more Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth during the free period and if it is during a paid period the daily posts will stop after the final day of the paid period. No refunds will be provided for cancelled subscriptions.
• Of course, I believe you will find great value and will continue. I invite you to dialogue with me, and even suggest potential topics you’d like me to write about. You may do this either by going to www.AskDrBethErickson.com or by sending me an e-mail at drbetherickson@aol.com.
• You may find that some Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth posts are more interesting to you than others. That is only natural. I have deliberately varied the topics I write about, so just wait a day or two, and I’ll bet another one will strike your fancy.
Benefits:
• These Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth posts provide food for thought on a wide range of topics as you go about your daily activities, such as commuting, doing chores, or planning your company’s next initiatives.
• With them, you will be able to capitalize on my over three and a half decades as a practicing psychotherapist on news of the day, such as the self-destruction of the political careers of Anthony Wiener, John Edwards, John Ensign, and Mark Sanford, or the aftermath of the earthquake, tsunami and nuclear plant meltdown in Japan.
• You will also get a psychologist’s perspective on important topics such as the impact on children of their parents’ descent into poverty and homelessness, or on children of incarcerated parents, or the impact of technology on kids’ brain development.
• Likewise, some Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth posts will be on important relationship enhancing skills and how to build them, such as appropriate ways to share feelings, top five secrets for staying in love, the uses and abuses of anger, and talking to children about death.
• Bottom line, you’ll be smarter and better informed on a wide range of topics when you subscribe.
• So let me do your homework for you.
Check out this 30 DAYS ARE FREE exciting offer!!! It’s a subscription-only Daily Words of Wisdom from Dr. Beth SIGN UP TODAY AT (http://tinyurl.com/3rafcld)
Dedicated to your health and happiness,
Dr. Beth
Thursday, June 30, 2011
Better Marriages Fiesta in Albuquerque New Mexico
On Saturday, July 9, at 8:30 am I will be at the Better Marriages Fiesta in Albuquerque New Mexico presenting my Relationship Boot Camp. I will teach you the seven basic skills couples need to learn and practice in order to have a healthy, happy marriage. This workshop will discuss and demonstrate these skills, and allow participants to practice them. To register and learn more about this event go to http://www.bettermarriages.org/
Monday, March 28, 2011
What Is Posttraumatic Stress Disorder?
On my radio show that airs today, I interview a man who has struggled with Posttraumatic Stress Order (PTSD) since 1979 when the airplane he was flying crashed. I listed a few of the prominent diagnostic indicators of this condition on air and promised that I would post the rest on my web site. Here they are, excerpted from the Diagnostic Criteria from DSM-IV. The DSM is the clinician’s Bible for diagnosing mental illnesses.
A. The person has been exposed to a traumatic event in which both of the following
were present:
(1)The person experienced, witnessed, or was confronted with an event or events that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others.
(2)The person’s response involved intense fear, helplessness, or horror.
B. The traumatic event is persistently reexperienced in one (or more) of the following ways:
(1)recurrent and intrusive distressing recollections of the event, including images, thoughts, or perceptions;
(2)recurrent distressing dreams of the event;
(3)acting or feeling as if the traumatic event were recurring (includes a sense of reliving the experience, illusions, hallucinations, and dissociative flashback episodes, including those that occur on awakening or when intoxicated);
(4)intense psychological distress at exposure to internal or external cues that symbolize or resemble an aspect of the traumatic event;
(5)physiological reactivity on exposure to internal or external cues that symbolize or resemble an aspect of the traumatic event.
C. Persistent avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma and numbing of general responsiveness (not present before the trauma) as indicated by three (or more) of the following:
(1)efforts to avoid thoughts, feelings, or conversation associated with the trauma;
(2)efforts to avoid activities, places, or people that arouse recollections of the trauma;
(3)inability to recall an important aspect of the trauma;
(4)markedly diminished interest or participation in significant activities;
(5)feelings of detachment or estrangement from others;
(6)restricted range of affect ( e.g., unable to have loving feelings)
(7)sense of a foreshortened future (e.g., does not expect to have a career, marriage, children, or a normal life span).
D. Persistent symptoms of increased arousal (not present before the trauma), as indicated by two (or more) of the following:
(1)difficulty falling asleep;
(2)irritability or outbursts of anger;
(3)difficulty concentrating;
(4)hypervigilance
(5)exaggerated startle response;
E.Duration of the disturbance (symptoms in Criteria B, C, and D) is more than one month.
F.Disturbance causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
Acute: if duration of symptoms is less than three months
Chronic: if duration of symptoms is three months or more
With delayed onset: if onset of symptoms is at least six months after the stressor.
As you look over this list of symptoms of PTSD, imagine the stress that this condition places on the individual who has this illness, as well as on his/her intimate relationship.
A. The person has been exposed to a traumatic event in which both of the following
were present:
(1)The person experienced, witnessed, or was confronted with an event or events that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others.
(2)The person’s response involved intense fear, helplessness, or horror.
B. The traumatic event is persistently reexperienced in one (or more) of the following ways:
(1)recurrent and intrusive distressing recollections of the event, including images, thoughts, or perceptions;
(2)recurrent distressing dreams of the event;
(3)acting or feeling as if the traumatic event were recurring (includes a sense of reliving the experience, illusions, hallucinations, and dissociative flashback episodes, including those that occur on awakening or when intoxicated);
(4)intense psychological distress at exposure to internal or external cues that symbolize or resemble an aspect of the traumatic event;
(5)physiological reactivity on exposure to internal or external cues that symbolize or resemble an aspect of the traumatic event.
C. Persistent avoidance of stimuli associated with the trauma and numbing of general responsiveness (not present before the trauma) as indicated by three (or more) of the following:
(1)efforts to avoid thoughts, feelings, or conversation associated with the trauma;
(2)efforts to avoid activities, places, or people that arouse recollections of the trauma;
(3)inability to recall an important aspect of the trauma;
(4)markedly diminished interest or participation in significant activities;
(5)feelings of detachment or estrangement from others;
(6)restricted range of affect ( e.g., unable to have loving feelings)
(7)sense of a foreshortened future (e.g., does not expect to have a career, marriage, children, or a normal life span).
D. Persistent symptoms of increased arousal (not present before the trauma), as indicated by two (or more) of the following:
(1)difficulty falling asleep;
(2)irritability or outbursts of anger;
(3)difficulty concentrating;
(4)hypervigilance
(5)exaggerated startle response;
E.Duration of the disturbance (symptoms in Criteria B, C, and D) is more than one month.
F.Disturbance causes clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
Acute: if duration of symptoms is less than three months
Chronic: if duration of symptoms is three months or more
With delayed onset: if onset of symptoms is at least six months after the stressor.
As you look over this list of symptoms of PTSD, imagine the stress that this condition places on the individual who has this illness, as well as on his/her intimate relationship.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
Do You Know - Number Two
DID YOU KNOW . . .
Family spending on a child born in 2009 would total $286,050 by age 17. A two-child family would cost about $600,000.
*Source: Newsweek August 16, 2010
What I don’t know is what makes up that number. Is it only specific expense outlays for the child or does it include a pro rata share of the family vacations, cost of housing, the family car(s) or what? The average annual cost then is $16,853 for a child and $35,294 for two children.
Hard to image any average middle class family having that much money, I would just like to have a breakdown of how those numbers were compiled.
You know the old expression by Mark Twain, “there are lies, damned lies and then there are statistics.
One more U.S. statistic for you to ponder. In 2005, the median personal income for the population age 25 or older was $39,336. (Median means the one in the middle so half of the workers earn less and half of the workers earn more.)
For more information, feel free to contact me at drbetherickson@aol.com or 888-546-1580.
Family spending on a child born in 2009 would total $286,050 by age 17. A two-child family would cost about $600,000.
*Source: Newsweek August 16, 2010
What I don’t know is what makes up that number. Is it only specific expense outlays for the child or does it include a pro rata share of the family vacations, cost of housing, the family car(s) or what? The average annual cost then is $16,853 for a child and $35,294 for two children.
Hard to image any average middle class family having that much money, I would just like to have a breakdown of how those numbers were compiled.
You know the old expression by Mark Twain, “there are lies, damned lies and then there are statistics.
One more U.S. statistic for you to ponder. In 2005, the median personal income for the population age 25 or older was $39,336. (Median means the one in the middle so half of the workers earn less and half of the workers earn more.)
For more information, feel free to contact me at drbetherickson@aol.com or 888-546-1580.
Do You Know - Number One
DID YOU KNOW . . .
Children who eat dinner with their families at least five times a week are 40 times less likely to be overweight.
I hypothesize that this is because the shared family connection nourishes them far better than sweet or salty snacks.
Ideally, each person gets an opportunity to add to the conversation that goes on around the table. Even babies can be encouraged to join the conversation, even if only gibberish.
A shared family meal gives everyone the vehicle for keeping in touch with each other and therefore, it offers the opportunity to strengthen the fabric of that family’s life. At the same time, it builds the self-esteem and sense of belonging of even the smallest family member.
Children who eat dinner with their families at least five times a week are 40 times less likely to be overweight.
I hypothesize that this is because the shared family connection nourishes them far better than sweet or salty snacks.
Ideally, each person gets an opportunity to add to the conversation that goes on around the table. Even babies can be encouraged to join the conversation, even if only gibberish.
A shared family meal gives everyone the vehicle for keeping in touch with each other and therefore, it offers the opportunity to strengthen the fabric of that family’s life. At the same time, it builds the self-esteem and sense of belonging of even the smallest family member.
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Failure to Fearless
YOU HAVE THE POWER!
Discover The Great, Powerful, Passionate, and Purposeful YOU.
Yes, it is a fact of life that we all face failure at times.
SO WHAT!
All of those limiting thoughts, self doubts, and negative patterns knocking around in your brain can change!
Make a POWER CHOICE to change.
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
You get to attend and listen for FREE! That is not hype...it is a fact!
If you truly want to change the direction of your thinking today...
Register for FREE NOW:
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
You can listen to all 22 interviews for FREE...
In fact, you can attend ALL 22 calls in the Failure to Fearless telesummit series as my GUEST.
Remember, you get to attend and listen for FREE!
The REALLY BIG NEWS is...Suzanna has decided to continue the Failure to Fearless telesummit series
throughout the month of November!
WOW! WOW! WOW!~
Register here:
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
Groundbreaking Failure to Fearless Series with 22 one-hour sessions…
World renowned speakers and personal success experts and so much more!
Countless easy-to-use and proven success Wealth Creation tools, techniques and systems that can help you achieve all your dreams and goals...
Plus, this is an entirely *FREE* series.
No obligation. No strings attached.
Sign up NOW to reserve your spot today.
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
If you act quickly, you can also take advantage of a special offer that will allow you to get your hands on the entire series of incredible unadvertised Bonus Gifts (worth $197 for *FREE*) . . .
To learn more and to register today, check out the site:
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
I promise, you will be AMAZED at what you will learn in every session.
I do hope you take advantage of this opportunity and FREE is a very good price. I am always looking for ways to help change the world and I believe this is one. Empower yourself to take charge of your future. I implore you to invest the time to listen to these teleseminars. Knowledge is priceless.
Dr. Beth
Discover The Great, Powerful, Passionate, and Purposeful YOU.
Yes, it is a fact of life that we all face failure at times.
SO WHAT!
All of those limiting thoughts, self doubts, and negative patterns knocking around in your brain can change!
Make a POWER CHOICE to change.
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
You get to attend and listen for FREE! That is not hype...it is a fact!
If you truly want to change the direction of your thinking today...
Register for FREE NOW:
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
You can listen to all 22 interviews for FREE...
In fact, you can attend ALL 22 calls in the Failure to Fearless telesummit series as my GUEST.
Remember, you get to attend and listen for FREE!
The REALLY BIG NEWS is...Suzanna has decided to continue the Failure to Fearless telesummit series
throughout the month of November!
WOW! WOW! WOW!~
Register here:
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
Groundbreaking Failure to Fearless Series with 22 one-hour sessions…
World renowned speakers and personal success experts and so much more!
Countless easy-to-use and proven success Wealth Creation tools, techniques and systems that can help you achieve all your dreams and goals...
Plus, this is an entirely *FREE* series.
No obligation. No strings attached.
Sign up NOW to reserve your spot today.
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
If you act quickly, you can also take advantage of a special offer that will allow you to get your hands on the entire series of incredible unadvertised Bonus Gifts (worth $197 for *FREE*) . . .
To learn more and to register today, check out the site:
http://www.failuretofearless.com/telesummit/Dr_Beth.php
I promise, you will be AMAZED at what you will learn in every session.
I do hope you take advantage of this opportunity and FREE is a very good price. I am always looking for ways to help change the world and I believe this is one. Empower yourself to take charge of your future. I implore you to invest the time to listen to these teleseminars. Knowledge is priceless.
Dr. Beth
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Dr. Beth’s Book Nook
Today I am instituting a new feature on my blog called Dr. Beth's Book Nook. Because I get so many wonderful books from potential guests who want to come on my radio show, I have access to some great titles. And that is how I found Chris Tatevosian’s book LIFE INTERRUPTED – IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT ME.
In his memoir, Chris shares what he has learned through his own personal mistakes in being self-absorbed with his own illness. And this, more than anything, destroyed his first marriage.
Chris has had Multiple Sclerosis for thirty years. As a consequence of this dreadful, degenerative disease, he lives his life in a wheel chair and is legally blind. And yet, he remains undaunted.
Through my decades of being a therapist, I can understand the stresses that a chronic physical disability can cause in any relationship, especially when a spouse or loved one becomes a care giver by default. It often isn't practical or affordable to hire care givers. And so the needs required to care for someone with a physical disability often fall on the spouse. It is easier to see the difficulties of the person with the disability, so we may fail to see the stress that this causes on the care giving spouse.
Chris's book openly and honestly discusses these issues and shares many personal examples to support his ideas in the book. It is well-written and worth reading. Even if you are thinking, "This doesn't apply to me," unfortunately any one of us can find ourselves in Chris's situation. In a single second, an accident can place you in a wheel chair, incapacitated for the rest of your life. It even happened to Superman, a.k.a. Christopher Reeve.
You can obtain this book directly from Chris's website at: www.lifeinterrupted-nolonger.com. It truly is a profile in courage.
In his memoir, Chris shares what he has learned through his own personal mistakes in being self-absorbed with his own illness. And this, more than anything, destroyed his first marriage.
Chris has had Multiple Sclerosis for thirty years. As a consequence of this dreadful, degenerative disease, he lives his life in a wheel chair and is legally blind. And yet, he remains undaunted.
Through my decades of being a therapist, I can understand the stresses that a chronic physical disability can cause in any relationship, especially when a spouse or loved one becomes a care giver by default. It often isn't practical or affordable to hire care givers. And so the needs required to care for someone with a physical disability often fall on the spouse. It is easier to see the difficulties of the person with the disability, so we may fail to see the stress that this causes on the care giving spouse.
Chris's book openly and honestly discusses these issues and shares many personal examples to support his ideas in the book. It is well-written and worth reading. Even if you are thinking, "This doesn't apply to me," unfortunately any one of us can find ourselves in Chris's situation. In a single second, an accident can place you in a wheel chair, incapacitated for the rest of your life. It even happened to Superman, a.k.a. Christopher Reeve.
You can obtain this book directly from Chris's website at: www.lifeinterrupted-nolonger.com. It truly is a profile in courage.
Friday, October 22, 2010
Live Conversation with Dr. Beth
People have asked me if there was any way to ask follow up questions after listening to my Relationships 101 conversations on webtalkradio.net.
Because you decide when to listen and there is not a specific day and time I was reluctant to try to have a live call in portion with my show.
Because of you, the listener's interest, I am goingto try this on a test basis I have created a venue where you can call and engage with me live to address issues and answer questions you may have about life, relationships, family, grief theoretical concepts or other emotional concerns.
I invite you to join me for a follow-up to these conversations this Thursday evening October 28, 2020, at 8:00 Eastern 7:00 Central 6:00 Mountain 5:00 Pacific called “Live with Dr. Beth.”
If you would like to attend, please send an e-mail to me at drbetherickson@aol.com.
Put “Talk to Dr. Beth” in the subject line, and we’ll send you the call-in information.
If you would like me to specifically talk with you about a specific issue send me the question in your response email. When I know you are on the call as soon as a natural break occurs I will start discussing with you the issue you provided to me.
I truly hope you can join me. Hope to see you there.
Please feel free to invite others to join these conversations. It is not necessary to be on my mailing list to call in. If you know of a family member or friend who is up against some issue please do invite them to call in.
Just forward a copy of this email to them. I will not have a specific topic but will engage with callers to address their issue regardless of where that takes the conversation.
Dedicated to your health and happiness.
Dr. Beth
Because you decide when to listen and there is not a specific day and time I was reluctant to try to have a live call in portion with my show.
Because of you, the listener's interest, I am goingto try this on a test basis I have created a venue where you can call and engage with me live to address issues and answer questions you may have about life, relationships, family, grief theoretical concepts or other emotional concerns.
I invite you to join me for a follow-up to these conversations this Thursday evening October 28, 2020, at 8:00 Eastern 7:00 Central 6:00 Mountain 5:00 Pacific called “Live with Dr. Beth.”
If you would like to attend, please send an e-mail to me at drbetherickson@aol.com.
Put “Talk to Dr. Beth” in the subject line, and we’ll send you the call-in information.
If you would like me to specifically talk with you about a specific issue send me the question in your response email. When I know you are on the call as soon as a natural break occurs I will start discussing with you the issue you provided to me.
I truly hope you can join me. Hope to see you there.
Please feel free to invite others to join these conversations. It is not necessary to be on my mailing list to call in. If you know of a family member or friend who is up against some issue please do invite them to call in.
Just forward a copy of this email to them. I will not have a specific topic but will engage with callers to address their issue regardless of where that takes the conversation.
Dedicated to your health and happiness.
Dr. Beth
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
